Teasing that hurts

Sometimes teasing can be really hurtful and can change your life.

I was waiting for my friend the other day and there was this group of secondary school students near me. I overheard their conversation (not that I want to eavesdrop but they are talking really loudly, one was saying to a female student, "How come you are still fat, thought you say you want to lose weight?" With that, the rest of them laughed aloud.

The female student who was being teased could only smiled along with them. What can she say? I could see that she was beginning to feel conscious about it and although she was smiling but her eyes were really sad.

How many of us has actually being tease at or worst, have without thinking tease another person? The laughter and sacrastic remarks from this "so-call-friends" that have hurt you so deeply, you remember it till the day you die.

I remember when I was in my secondary school day, I actively took part in CCA and started to get to know a lot of people. I was happy and confident. One day, a guy from the same CCA came up to me and asked how I was doing. After a while, he went back to join his group of friends. He came back again and told me, infront of my other friends, "My friend said that you are fat." And he went off.

Luckily, I was with some of my girlfriends and I just let it go. That night, when I was alone in my room, I couldn't stop staring into the mirror. Asking myself over and over again, " Am I fat? I thought I look great." Over and over again.

Teasing started because people like to be entertained. Why contribute by laughing along with the "teaser" so to belong to the group? Have a mind of your own. Teaser don't have many ideas about how to get along with others. Teasing is not OK if it hurts people's feelings. Alot of time, people tease because they think it's fun. They don't really think about how the person being teased is feeling.

Often, when the person being teased gets upset, the one doing the teasing will try to get themselves out of taking responsibility for what they said by saying something like, "Can't you take a joke?" But they know it wasn't just a joke really. They said it even though they knew it might be upsetting, because they think it's fun and have never thought about what it's like to be the other person and have their hurt feelings.

I hope the guys that teased me have grown up to be more respectful and a mature person.