Recently, I have friends who got angry at the tinest, little things that happen around them. I don't know, blame it on the overcrowding here, recession, noisy kids, low tolerance among human....
Well, anger is a completely normal. But it can turns destructive and lead to problems that may affect our everyday activities. And it can make us feel as though we're at the mercy of a powerful emotion.
Human as we are, the natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. And I agree that unexpressed anger can create other problems. A certain amount of anger is necessary to our survival. But we just can't physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us.
Let's face it, we can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that anger you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions.
People who are easily angered generally have a low tolerance for frustration and would get particularly infuriated if the situation seems somehow unjust.
These are the 3 tips that could ease ourselves up:
- Timing: If we always end up quarreling or fighting with our love ones, e.g at night, we could try changing the times when we talk about important matters.
- Avoidance: If walking into a messy house/ room makes us furious every time (this happen to me all the time), shut the door. Don't make yourself look at what anger you. Keep calm.
- Finding alternatives: If our daily commute through traffic, whether in train, bus or car, could leaves us in a state of rage and frustration, map out a different route or avoid that timing.
( I have one friend who left his office 5mins from his usual time and he find his route home less crowded). Well, sometimes traffic is hard to gauge..
Another thing: Getting angry is not going to fix anything and it won't make us feel any better.
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