Insensitive

A friend who is overweight told me that he got angry with his good friend for being insensitive. It goes like this: Both of them went shopping and an overweight woman walked past them. When the woman was gone, his good friend burst out laughing and said "oh, she's so fat!" And this friend was thinking, "Hey, I'm fat too, so are you laughing at me?" Till this day, his "good" friend still did not not why they don't go out anymore.

I got this too. Not that people laugh at me that I am fat but that person was insensitive to my nationality. It goes like this: She is going to host a party and she texted her friends using her mobile to remember to RSVP. Few days past and some of her friends did not reply her so she decided to asked them directly. Her friends' answers are like, "still thinking", "not sure whether can make it". She got angry and that day (I happened to be around) and she told her other friends, "(she said the nationality) are so rude, they won't RSVP. Asked them about it and they are still so indecisive. All (she said the nationality again) are this kind of attitude!"

Well, at that time I was the only person that is the nationality that she mentioned. My face went red and I didn't not how to reply. The thing is, I am not one of them, I RSVP ed.

I wanted very much to say, :"Ah.. it depends on what kind of friends you have, right? I don't think my friends will do that to me." But I choose to remain silent.

A lot of the actions or words we exhibit are direct consequences on are how we are raised in - our parents or the general community. If we are taught how to be sensitive towards others' feeling, we grow up practising it.